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　　Everygenerationhasamonocultureofsorts，agoverningpatternorsystemofbeliefsthatpeopleunconsciouslyacceptastruth。ItseasytoidentifythemonocultureofGermanyinthe1930s，orAmericain1776。Itsclearwhatpeopleatthosetimes，inthoseplaces，acceptedtobegoodandtrueevenwheninreality，thatwascertainlynotalwaysthecase。
　　Theobjectivityrequiredtoseetheeffectsofpresentmonocultureisverydifficulttomaintain（onceyouhavesodeeplyacceptedanideaastruthitdoesntregisterasculturalorsubjectiveanymore）。。。butitscrucial。Somuchofourinnerturmoilissimplytheresultofconductingalifewedontinherentlyagreewith，becausewehaveacceptedaninnernarrativeofnormalandidealwithouteverrealizing。
　　Thefundamentalsofanygivenmonoculturetendtosurroundhowtoliveyourbestlife，howtoliveabetterlife，andwhatsmostworthlivingfor（nation，religion，self，etc。）andthereareanumberofwaysinwhichourcurrentsystemhasusshootingourselvesinthefeetaswetrytostepforward。Simply，thereareafewfundamentalsonhappiness，decisionmaking，instinctfollowingandpeacefindingthatwedontseemtounderstand。
　　Sohere，eightofthedailybehaviorsandunconscioushabitsthatarekeepingyoufromthelifeyoureallywant。
　　1。Youbelievethatcreatingyourbestpossiblelifeisamatterofdecidingwhatyouwantandthengoingafterit，butinreality，youarepsychologicallyincapableofbeingabletopredictwhatwillmakeyouhappy。
　　Yourbraincanonlyperceivewhatitsknown，sowhenyouchoosewhatyouwantforthefuture，youreactuallyjustrecreatingasolutionoranidealofthepast。Ironically，whensaidideasdontcometofruition（thingsneverlookthewaywethinktheywill）yousuffer，becauseyouthinkyouvefailed，whenreally，youremostlikelyexperiencingsomethingbetterthanyoucouldhavechosenforyourselfatthetime。（Moralofthestory：Livinginthemomentisntaloftyidealreservedforthezenandenlightened，itstheonlywaytolivealifethatisntinfiltratedwithillusions。。。itstheonlythingyourbraincanactuallycomprehend。）
　　2。Youextrapolatethepresentmomentbecauseyoubelievethatsuccessissomewhereyouarrive，soyouareconstantlytryingtotakeasnapshotofyourlifeandseeifyoucanbehappyyet。
　　Youaccidentallyconvinceyourselfthatanygivenmomentisyourlife，wheninreality，itisamomentinyourlife。Becausewerewiredtobelievethatsuccessissomewherewegettowhengoalsareaccomplishedandthingsarecompletedwereconstantlymeasuringourpresentmomentsbyhowfinishedtheyare，howgoodthestorysounds，howsomeoneelsewouldjudgethesummary。（Ifatanypointyoufindyourselfthinking：isthisallthereis？youreforgettingthateverythingistransitory。Thereisnowheretoarriveat。Theonlythingyourerushingtowardisdeath。Accomplishinggoalsisnotsuccess。Howmuchyoulearnandenjoyandexpandintheprocessofdoingthemis。）
　　3。Youassumethatwhenitcomestofollowingyourgutinstincts，happinessisgood，andfearandpainisbad。
　　Whenyouconsiderdoingsomethingthatyoutrulyloveandareinvestedin，youaregoingtofeelaninfluxoffearandpain，mostlybecauseitwillinvolvebeingvulnerable。Whenitcomestomakingdecisions，youhavetoknowthatbadfeelingsarenotdeterrents。Theyareindicatorsthatyouwanttodosomething，butitscaresyou（whicharethethingsmostworthdoing，ifyouaskme）。Notwantingtodosomethingwouldmakeyoufeelindifferentaboutit。Fearinterest。
　　4。Youneedlesslycreateproblemsandcrisesinyourlifebecauseyoureafraidofactuallylivingit。
　　Thepatternofunnecessarilycreatingcrisisinyourlifeisactuallyanavoidancetechnique。Itdistractsyoufromactuallyhavingtobevulnerableorheldaccounorwhateveritisyoureafraidof。Youreneverupsetforthereasonyouthinkyouare：atthecoreofyourdesiretocreateaproblemissimplythefearofbeingwhoyouare，andlivingthelifeyouwant。
　　5。Youthinkthattochangeyourbeliefs，youhavetoadoptanewlineofthinking，ratherthanseekexperiencesthatmakethatthinkingselfevident。
　　Abeliefiswhatyouknowtobetruebecauseexperiencehasmadeitevidenttoyou。Ifyouwanttochangeyourlife，changeyourbeliefs。Ifyouwanttochangeyourbeliefs，gooutandhaveexperiencesthatmakethemrealtoyou。Nottheoppositewayaround。
　　6。Youthinkproblemsareroadblockstoachievingwhatyouwant，wheninreality，theyarepathways。
　　Ifyouhaventhearditbefore，MarcusAureliussumsthisupwell：Theimpedimenttoactionadvancesaction。Whatstandsinthewaybecomestheway。RyanHolidayexplainsitevenmoregracefully：Theobstacleistheway。Simply，runningintoaproblemforcesyoutotakeactiontoresolveit。Thatactionleadsyoudownthepathyouhadultimatelyintendedtogoanyway，astheonlyproblemsinyourlifeultimatelycomedowntohowyouresistwhoyouareandhowyourlifenaturallyunfolds。
　　7。Youthinkyourpastdefinesyou，andworse，youthinkthatitisanunchangeablereality，whenreally，yourperceptionofitchangesasyoudo。
　　Becauseexperienceisalwaysmultidimensional，thereareavarietyofmemories，experiences，feelings，gistsyoucanchoosetorecall。。。andwhatyouchooseisindicativeofyourpresentstateofmind。Somanypeoplegetcaughtupinallowingthepasttodefinethem，orhauntthem，simplybecausetheyhavenotevolvedtotheplaceofseeinghowthepastdidnotpreventthemfromachievingthelifetheywant。。。itfacilitatedit（see：theobstacleistheway）。Thisdoesntmeantodisregardorglossoverpainfulortraumaticevents，butsimplytobeabletorecallthemwithacceptanceandtobeabletoplacetheminthestorylineofyourpersonalevolution。
　　8。Youtrytochangeotherpeople，situationsandthings（oryoujustcomplaingetupsetaboutthem）whenangerselfrecognition。
　　Mostnegativeemotionalreactionsareyouidentifyingadisassociatedaspectofyourself。Yourshadowselvesarethepartsofyouthat，atsomepoint，youwereconditionedtobelievewerenotokay，soyousuppressedthemandhavedoneeverythinginyourpowernottoacknowledgethem。Youdontactuallydislikethesepartsofyourself，though，youabsolutelylovethem。Sowhenyouseesomebodyelsedisplayingoneofthesetraits，itabsolutelyinfuriatesyou，notbecauseyouinherentlydislikeit，butbecauseyouhavetofightyourdesiretofullyintegrateitintoyourwholeconsciousness。Thethingsyouloveaboutothersarethethingsyouloveaboutyourself。Thethingsyouhateaboutothersarethethingsyoucannotseeinyourself。