source：psychcentralbyMarciaNaomiBerger，MSW，LCSW 欲翻译的小伙伴，可评论领稿，并把已完成的译文贴在评论处或发在自己的心理圈内。谢谢 Ifyourpartnersays，Wehaveaproblem，doesyourchesttighten？Doyouforgettobreathe？Whatgoesthroughyourmind？Aproblem！Aggh！Doesthatmeanhe（orshe）willleaveme？Isourrelationshipdoomed？Doyouimaginethatsomethingisterriblywrongwiththetwoofyouasacoupleandmaybeimpossibletofix？Ifthissoundslikeyou，youareprobablybeingdupedbyaharmfulmarriagemyth：Agoodmarriagehasnoproblems。 Conflictexistsinanymarriage。Ourchallengeistodealwithdifferencesconstructively。 Whetherbecauseofthefairytaleswegrewupwithorbecauseschoolsteachvirtuallynothingabouttherealitiesofmarriage，manypeoplethinkthatinagoodmarriageacoupleisnotsupposedtohaveanyproblems。Theywillpretendallisrosyuntilthestressofkeepingtheirfeelingsinsidebuildstothepointwhereitcomesoutharmfully。 Hereareafewsignsthatmayindicateyouareignoringarelationshipissue：Yoursexlifeisnotgood。Yourchildistooquietortooaggressive。Youthinkyourpartnerdoesn’tloveyou。Oneofyouisdepressed，angry，orjumpy。Youoryourpartnerisdrinking，eating，orgamblingexcessively。 Eachofushaswantsandneedswhichdon’talwaysmeshwiththoseofourmate。Whenwetrytoignorewhatkeepsusupsetfortoolong，itcaneruptlikeavolcano。Yourparticularchallengemayconcernintimacy，parenting，sex，money，inlaws，work，orsomethingelse。Donotwaittodealwithanythingthatputsyourrelationshipatrisk。 Marriagemeetings，asdescribedstepbystepinmybook，MarriageMeetingsforLastingLove，provideasafe，suretimeforagentle，looselystructuredconversationduringwhichyoubothgettotalkaboutwhat’sonyourminds。Yougettoreconnectwitheachotherlovingly，tonurtureyourselvesandyourrelationship。Youmaintainthegoodfeelingsbydealingwithsmallissuesbeforetheygrowintobigones。 ThePotentialforConflictExistsEverywhere MarriageandrelationshipeducatorEllenKreidman，PhD，givesasimpleexampletoshowthatpotentialforconflictexistsinanymarriage。Shestatesthatinthebathroomonespousewantsthetoiletpapertounrollfromthetop；theotherwantsittounrollfromthebottom。Oneleavesthetoiletseatup；theotherwantsitdown；onelikesasparklingcleansink；theotherleaveshairsorspecksofmakeupinit。Onelikesthedooropen；theotherinsistsonprivacy，andsoon。Ifyou’rethinkingseparatebathrooms，I’mwithyou！Butthatisnotalwayspossible。Still，bybeingcreativeandresourceful，youcanoftencomeupwithwaystolessenannoyances。 TheRiskofConcealingDifferences LillyandJonathanillustratethedangeroftakingtoolongtoidentifyanddealwithasensitiveissue。Stillchildlessaftereightyearsofmarriage，theyfinallyadoptedababygirl。WhenLillyfirstmetJonathan，sheadmiredhistakechargemanner。Shefeltprotectedbyhim。Softspokenanddiplomatic，sheacquiescedtohimonmostmatters。Lilly’sparentshadfoughtalotandeventuallydivorced。Shedidn’twantthistohappentoher。Shebelieveditwasimportanttogoalongwithherhusbandonmostmattersinordertokeepthepeace。 Beforetheybecameparents，JonathanencouragedLillytogiveuphercareerasahospitalnursetostayhomewiththeirchildatleastuntilkindergarten。Lillythoughtthiswasasmallpricetopayforrealizingherdreamofmotherhood。Shesquelchedherdoubtsaboutgivinguptheworksheloved。Shetoldherselfthatdoingwhatherhusbandwantedwastherightthingtodo。 Aftertwoyearsathome，Lillythoughtshewouldlosehermind。Shelovedherlittlegirl，butshesorelymissedthehustleandbustleofherhospitalwork，interactingwithcolleagues，andcaringforpatients。Shealsomissedthesalary，whichshehadbeenfreetospendasshechose。NowwhenJonathanobjectedtoasmallpurchaseshemade，hejustifiedhisstancebysaying，I’mthebreadwinner。Lillyfeltherchesttightenatsuchtimes。Wantingtokeepthepeace，shewouldsay，I’lltakeitback。 LillyPretendsAllisWelluntilitistooLate Inpublic，Lillyplayedthepartofasmiling，contentedwifeandmother。Privately，shebegantofeeldistantfromherhusband。Shelostinterestinsex。Sheresentedhimbutsaidnothing。ShefeltignoredandinvisibleuntilsheservedastunnedJonathanwithdivorcepapers。 IsJonathanavillain？Lillyhadsharednoneofherfrustrationwithhim。ShouldJonathanhavereadhermind？Eitherpartnermighthavesavedtheirmarriagebyinitiatinganhonestconversation。Jonathancouldhaveaskedhiswifewhethersomethingotherthanherheadacheswascausinghertowithdrawsexually。Shecouldhavetoldhimaboutherunhappinessandsaidwhatshereallywanted，evenifshefeltselfishorguilty。 Thiscouplemightthenhavefoundwaystocompromise，perhapsbyagreeingthatshewouldreturntoworkparttime。LillymighthavesuggestedtoJonathanthatitwouldbefairforeachofthemtohaveacertainamountofmoneytospendwithnoquestionsasked，regardlessofwhoearnedit。Bytalkingitoutwithhonestyandmutualrespect，theymightwellhavecreatedawayforpracticalsolutionstoemerge，fortrusttogrow，andforthereturnofemotionalandphysicalintimacy。 Allintimaterelationshipshaveissues。Dealwiththemconstructively，andyouwillgrowpersonallyandstrengthenyourbond。Byadaptingamorerealisticviewpointaboutmarriageyouwillbeabletouseeffectivetechniquesforcreatingaunionthatfulfillsyouemotionallyandspirituallyaswellasphysicallyandmaterially。
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