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　　标题：10SignsThatYouCareTooMuchAboutWhatOthersThink
　　source：lifehack丨bycaseyimafidon
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　　Itishumantodesirewhatgoesaroundyourenvironment。Suchknowledgegivesussomelevelofconsciousnessandacceptanceofourenvironment。However，takingsuchdesiretoofarcanbedetrimentalbecauseithurtsourselfesteem，andincertainoccasionscouldheightenouranxiety。Wedonotneedtocommitourthoughtsandactivitiestotheopinionslaiddownbyothers。
　　Herearetensignstotellyouifyouhavebegunthinkingtoomuchaboutwhatothersthink。
　　1。Youdon’tknowhowtosayNo
　　Peopleaskyouforfavorsorjumpintoyourlifetoforcefullybeapartofit。YoureallyneedtoknowhowtosayNotowhatwillnotbenefityourwellbeingbecausesayingNoisjustasimportantassayingYes。Perhapsyoudonotwanttodisappointother。Inreality，ifyouwanttobecomeahappierpersonyoushouldn’tfocusontheexternal，butratherontheinternal。
　　2。Youdon’tsetboundaries
　　Thismeanssettingboundariesforyourselfandforothers。Yourlifeisnotaparkwhereeveryonecomestoplay。Youshouldbeabletosetboundariesifyoureallydonotwanttobecaringabouttheopinionsofotherssomuch。
　　3。Youareconcernedaboutwhatothershavetosay
　　Youwanttoknowwhatothersarethinkingorsayingaboutyou。Youscrollthroughmagazinesandspendsomuchtimeonsocialmediaitpracticallybecomesasickness。Youdon’thavethatpowertoignoregossiporcomments。Instead，yougiveothersthepowertoruleyourthoughts。
　　4。Youalwaysplaythevictim
　　Youwanttheworldtocareorsympathizewithyou。Ifsomethingiswrong，youblowatrumpetaboutitbecauseyoufeelthattheworldshouldlistenandshareinyourproblems。
　　5。Youareapeoplepleaser
　　Youfeelvalidatedbytryingtopleaseeveryone，wheninthetruestsenseyoucan’tpleaseeveryone。Youcanonlypleaseyourself。Asmuchasitsatisfiesyoutodothis，youareonlygivingothersakeytostartdeterminingyouractionsanddeeds。
　　6。Youseekattention
　　Youwanttobeseenandwantotherstobeattractedtoyou。Youdonotknowthatitisnotpossibleforeveryonetolikeyou。Yetyoukeepontakingactionsandmakingdecisionsthatwilldraweveryonetoyou。
　　7。Youareindecisive
　　Youdonotknowhowtomakedecisions。Youhesitateandyou’reslowtotakingactions。Mosttimes，youwouldratherwaitandlistentowhateverybodyhastosaybeforemakingdecisions。
　　8。Youdon’tfollowyourguts
　　ThereisanintuitionwithinusallthattellsusYesorNo。Whenwecaresomuchaboutwhatothershavetosay，wewillignorewhatourgutstellustodomostofthetime。
　　9。Youalwaysplayitsafe
　　Youdon’twantanyonetogethurtbecauseofyourdeedsorwords。Youalsodon’twanttostirnegativeemotionsandmakepeoplefeelbad。Youtrytoplayitsafeandrevolveyourlifeinacocoon。Suchsafetyzonesdemonstratethatyouareaversetotakingrisksandsteppingoutoftheconventionalboundaries。
　　10。Youareboastful
　　Youexaggerateyouraccomplishmentsandsometimesyougowayoverboardtopublicizeyouraccomplishments。Youliketotalkaboutyourselfandwanteveryonetolistentowhatyouhavetosay。Whetheryouaretheloudestpersonintheroomortrytoseemthesmartest，youareonlydoingthistomakeothersawareofyou。
　　Caringaboutwhatothersthinkshowsakindofinferiority。Mosttimes，thiscanleadtodisappointment。Weallshouldbecompleteandbeproudofwhoweare。Ourhappinessandoursuccessshouldnotdependonwhatothersthinkaboutus。