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　　标题：WhyNewMomsThinkScaryThoughtsAfterHavingaBaby
　　source：psychologytoday丨bySarahBest，LMSW
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　　Almosteverynewparent，atonetimeoranother，worriesabouttheirbabiesgettinghurtorsick。Infact，researchersreportthatmorethan90percentofnewparentsexperiencewhatpsychologistscallintrusivethoughts，frighteningthoughtsthattheydontwanttohaveandfindtroubling。SomefindthemselvesworryingaboutmedicalcriseslikeSIDSorwhoopingcough。Othershavethoughtsofaccidentssuchashousefiresorcarcrashes。Andalthoughitsprobablynotatopicofdiscussiononplaydates，somewomenfearthattheythemselvesmighthurttheirbaby。
　　Whydowehavesuchdisturbingthoughts？Sciencesuggeststhatparentsespeciallymothersduringthepostpartumperiodarewiredtobeonthelookoutforpossiblethreatstotheiroffspring。Thatsagoodthing。Butbeingonhighalertcanbringtomindscarypossibilities，andthesethoughtsandimagesareoftengraphicallydetailed。
　　Somemothersnoticethesethoughtsbutcaneasilydismissthem。Forexample，theydefinitelydontliketheideaoftheirbabyhavingaseizureorbeingscaldedinabathtub，buttheyrecognizethatthesedisturbingeventsareveryunlikelyandcanletthoughtsofthempasswithoutfeelingtoomuchdistress。Sure，theyworryaboutillnessesoraccidentsfromtimetotime，butforthemostpart，theyareabletoputthemasideandenjoybeingwiththeirbaby。
　　Othermomsfindthemselvespreoccupiedorevenimmobilizedbyscarythoughts。Andthoseworriesbegintointerferewiththeirlives。Theymaycheckontheirsleepingbabyeveryhourtomakesurehesbreathingorfindthemselvesunabletoleavehomeforfearofgerms。
　　Motherscanfeelespeciallytorturedandmaystartrestrictingactivitieswhentheyworrytheycouldbetheonetocauseharmtotheirbaby。Amomwhoisafraidofdroppingormishandlingherbabymightavoidholdinghim。Momswhofeartheymightsnapandintentionallyhurttheirbabiescanbecomehypervigilantabouttheirownmentalstates，constantlysearchingforevidencethattheyarelosingtouchwithreality。
　　Helpisavailableifyourthoughtsarecausingyoualotofdistressorimpactingyoureverydaychoices。Feelingoverwhelmedbythesethoughtsisacommonsymptomofbothpostpartumdepression（linkisexternal）andanxiety（linkisexternal），whichaffectupto20percentofchildbearingwomen。Buttheseconditionsaretrea。Withprofessionalsupport，youcanlearntomanagethemandenjoybeingwithyourbaby。Andintime，youcanfeelconfidentandcomforinyournewrole。
　　Itsespeciallyimportanttotalktoyourobgyn（linkisexternal），midwife，oramentalhealthprofessionalifyouhavethoughtsofhurtingyourbaby。Thefactthatthesethoughtsupsetyouisgoodevidencethatyouarecommittedtokeepingyourbabysafe。Sowhileitsveryunlikelythatthesethoughtsposeanyrisktoyouoryourbaby，exploringyourconcernswithatrainedprofessionalcanreassureyouandhelpeaseyourmind。
　　Butifyoufeelrelievedratherthandistressedwhenyouthinkaboutactingonyourthoughts，ifyoufeelcompelledtoactonthem，orifyouareseriouslyafraidforyouroryourbabyssafety，call911orgotoyournearestemergencyroomrightaway。Thosetypesofsymptomssuggestamoreseriousconditionknownaspostpartumpsychosis（linkisexternal）andrequireimmediateattention。
　　ThePostpartumStressCenterhasaninformativepage（linkisexternal）dedicatedtocopingwithscarythoughtsduringparenting。Forhelpfindingamentalhealthproviderwithexpertisehelpingnewmomsmanageupsettingthoughts，checkoutPostpartumProgresssexcellentresourcepage（linkisexternal）orcallPostpartumSupportInternationalswarmline（linkisexternal）。
　　Youandmostnewparentscantakecomfortinknowingthatstrangethoughtsareanormal，ifunwelcome，partofparenthood。Withsupport，guidance，practice，andpatience，youcanlearntorecognizethesethoughtsforwhattheyare（justthoughts！）andfindmorejoyandconfidenceasamother。